Can I Get An Amen?

An interesting aspect to people is their proclivity toward hypocrisy. By that I mean we say one thing but we really do not mean it or it does not really apply to us personally.

I was complaining about this to the Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage this past week.

“Why is it,” I said most curiously, “people really don’t mean what they say?”

She responded by saying, “I always mean what I say.”

Being the kind of husband that I am, I refused to contradict her reply. Therefore, I am not referring to her in these comments. People just don’t say what they mean.

For the past month, I’ve been having issues with shingles and nerve pain all the way down my right arm. It’s very painful and I hope it goes away soon. Let it be clear that pain and me are not friends. The sooner the pain leaves, the better it’s going to be for me.

But I digress. My condition has been a very clear focus of my life these days. After all, it’s my pain that I have to live with every day.

It happened just the other day when somebody that I was passing on my way into Publix said to me, “Hi, how are you doing?”

Well, I thought to myself, he asked so I begin to tell him about my condition and all of the aspects associated with it. Within a few moments I could tell he was not very much interested in how I was doing.

I continued with all of the details and then he suddenly looked at his watch and said, “That’s interesting, but I am late for an appointment and I have to leave right now.”

Well, okay, but after all, he asked the question I didn’t. If he wasn’t interested in how I was doing, why did he ask?

See how people say things they don’t really mean?

This happened to me several times with people I had never met before. They asked the question about how I was doing, when I began telling them how I was doing, they had no real interest in how I was doing.

That rather frustrated me. How I was doing was a very important aspect of my life and sharing my pain with someone else was something I wanted to do. However, nobody was interested in my pain.

It brought me down to a point of discouragement. I had to stay home for several days because of the condition I was in. I could not drive and so I stayed home.

Then something different opened up for me.

As I was sitting there, reveling in my displeasure and discomfort, the telephone rang.

I answered the phone and it was somebody trying to sell me something. They began by saying, “Hello, how are you doing today?”

That is all I needed to hear. I began to tell him exactly how I was doing with all of the pain and discomfort I was experiencing. I went on and on even though several times he tried to interrupt my little speech. He asked and so I was telling.

Three minutes into my little speech, I heard the telephone go “click” and there was nobody on the other end of the line.

I sat back in my chair and smiled rather deeply. Why did this person asked me how I was doing if he wasn’t interested in it?

It was quite an afternoon, I’ll tell you that. I don’t know if the word got out that I was sick and at home, but the phone rang constantly all afternoon. Everybody asked me, “Hello, how are you doing?” And, I told them how I was doing.

All that afternoon I dominated the conversation of every telephone solicitor that called. I never allowed them to get a word in edge wise because they asked me how I was doing and I was going to tell them.

My wife came home from the office and saw me smiling.

“What in the world,” she said as she walked towards me, “are you smiling about?”

“All afternoon,” I explained to her, “people were calling me asking me how I was. And so I spent all afternoon telling these people exactly how I was.” I then chuckled.

She just looked at me and then broke out laughing herself.

I found out the telemarketers are not really interested in “How you are.” All they’re interested in is selling something I really don’t need. But I enjoyed the day telling them how I was doing.

That’s the way it is with most people today. They say one thing but they really do not mean it. They do not want to know how I am doing. It is just something they politely say when they do not know what else to say.

David understood this when he wrote, “They speak vanity every one with his neighbour: with flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak” (Psalm 12:2).

How often does this happen in our daily life.

Then David said this about himself, “My mouth shall speak of wisdom; and the meditation of my heart shall be of understanding” (Psalm 49:3).

As I was sitting in my chair nursing my pain, I came to at least one conclusion. I am not going to ask people how they are unless I really want to know how they are.

When Is a Good Time to Buy A Used Car?

Buying a car can be a tough and emotional decision. There are so many factors to consider when it comes to making such a big buying decision. When is the right time to buy a used car?

There isn’t really a particularly good or bad time to buy a used car, but there are a few factors to consider when it comes to the timing of making a big purchase.

    • Disposable income. Your budget is a very important factor when it comes to buying a car. Consider how much disposable income you have available. In other words, how much money do you have left after all your expenses are paid? And how much money will you have left after you buy a car? If you have a set amount available for the monthly repayments of the car, then find out how much the total value of the car will be that you can afford. Stick to that total value. Rather buy a car that is below that value than one that is above it because you could find yourself in a tight position when it comes to your monthly finances.
    • Current car problems. Is your current car giving you more problems than usual? Are you spending a lot of money on repairs? Could you rather allocate those funds towards a reliable car? If you find yourself having to fix engine issues every month or your car is getting old and giving you a lot of problems, then you might want to consider trading it in for another one.
    • Family is expanding. If you currently have a small car and you are going to have another baby, then you will need to consider looking for a car that is more spacious and suitable for a family of three or four, depending on your situation. A baby may be very small but they come with so much luggage. Consider the size of the pram and the bags that you will have with you. Will everything fit in the boot?
  • Maintenance plan is ending soon. If you have car that currently has a maintenance plan that is coming to an end, then you might consider selling it. You can then look for a used car that is less than 2 years old which still has a maintenance and service plan in place. This gives you the peace of mind that all your services will be covered as well as any maintenance that needs to be done. With a maintenance plan you can be assured that the original parts will be used and that no shortcuts will be taken when it comes to repairing faulty parts.

What Makes Up The Engine?

Many people believe that the entire engine is just a big block that does all the work. That might be true, but what exactly is in this block that gets such a large machine to move and function?

Let’s start with the driver. The driver would apply the acceleration pedal. This pedal forces fuel into the combustion chamber. Depending on the type of car you have will depend on the type of fuel you will fill the tank with. In this case, we will be dealing with a petrol engine.

Once you force the petrol into the combustion chamber, a valve will open up to allow the combustible liquid into the cylinder head. There are usually two valves per cylinder head as there has to be an inlet and outlet for the car to move and transfer gases.

The valves will close and allow no extra air or petrol to enter whilst the piston compresses the petrol. After the piston reaches B.D.C or bottom dead centre, the spark plugs will ignite the petrol. The piston will then push the burnt gases out of the outlet valve ready for the next bit of fuel to enter its chamber.

Around each piston is a set of piston rings. These rings seal any spaces that could let in air and allow the piston to move smoothly. They also prevent oil from leaking from the sump into the combustion chamber. Each piston is linked to a connecting rod that gets attached to the crankshaft with a bearing.

The crankshaft will convert the pistons up and down movement into rotational movement. In other words, this is the part that makes the car move forwards and backwards. Each time time-aligned pistons go down, the crankshaft rotates.

The ignition system is connected to a timing system that sets off specific spark plugs at a time. In a four cylinder engine, it would be the first and third spark plug that ignites first and then the second and fourth plugs.

After the engine has gone through the cycle and reaches the fourth cylinder head, the second valve will open up thus releasing the gases to the exhaust manifold either going to a turbo or straight to the exhaust pipe.

The car has many systems functioning together to make it the ultimate machine. Apart from the engine, there is the braking system, the electronic system and the clutch system. Usually when you take your car in for a service, the mechanics would check if the car needs any clutch, engine or brake repairs before sending the machine off to the specific specialist.

We are based in Boksburg and are able to service everyone in the East Rand Area. Don’t take chances with your brakes. If you are in any doubt about your brakes, come to us and get them checked while you wait. We offer a speedy brake repair service.

Successful Women Entrepreneurs Today In A Competitive World

The successful female operated businesses know the meaning of a true business owner, “One who carries out to conduct a business assuming complete control and danger,” is not gender specific, it is not surprising that most entrepreneurs are men.

Lots of women merely do not have the time to start a company due to the fact that women tend to undertake the greater share of raising kids and keeping the house together!

I had the chance to interview a few who attended the woman’s conference and take a close take a look at the issues that successful women entrepreneurs deal with.

At a current international women entrepreneur’s conference in Glasgow, the Bank of Scotland presented a few of its research studies.

In accordance with the bank, even successful women entrepreneurs tend to: under-capitalize their organizations at startup; have a disinclination to use financial obligation financing and to be more danger averse than their male equivalents,

And they utilize a greater percentage of their individual savings within their service, both at startup and advancement.

They are less aggressive than guys about their understanding and understanding of financial products and services, all which can influence on funding and growing their businesses.

This might be exacerbated by the banks’ historic hesitation to treat their women in business clients in the very same manner as male customers.

Females owned businesses have the tendency to be more service oriented.

Yes, and therefore have less equity than male owned services– another factor banks can be hesitant.

Financing is vital to all commerce and of course the female owned businesses, and possibly managing money is most crucial amongst small businesses, whether at the start or when expanding.

The struggle to keep appropriate cash and financial freedom alive is consistent among business owners.

Is it any surprise then, that monetary concern is the most widespread cause of stress and insomnia!

With female owned businesses producing over thirty nine percent of new start-ups, and just over a third of self-employed proprietorships in Canada owned or led by females, female entrepreneurs have increased by just over more two hundred per cent in the last twenty years.

As an outcome, more black female business entrepreneurs are seeking more opportunities to grow their network and boost their support systems.

The Women Entrepreneurs of North America in Canada was established in Toronto in 1992, as a support, opportunity and resource network for female entrepreneurs.

I found that WEC promotes and fosters the young women entrepreneurs, too, in Canada and assists them to accomplish and define success on their own terms.

It’s important to help promote the interests of successful women entrepreneurs and women in business getting started, and business owners in the larger service neighborhood.

It assists in the transfer of appropriate knowledge that is appropriate to WEC members; and partners with companies both in Canada and abroad, such as the National Association of Women Business Owners in the USA.

And the global groups like Femmes Chefs d’Enterprises Mondiales and the Italian Associazione Imprenditrici e Donne Dirigenti D’Azienda, to bring finest chances, resources and practices to its members here.

This is an organization where women can fulfill their life dreams and blend with other female owned businesses, who deal with similar issues in starting, running, and growing their services.

WEC is a resource that offers a unified voice to federal government and the public, pressing the issues of women in business to a right-minded leading edge.

It is suggested that increased young women entrepreneurs research and study to produce more chances for black female business owners, while bringing exactly what is learnt about women’s organizations updated.

And relating to maternity leave– as female owned businesses are working to do the exact same benefits as for their staff members as they ‘d like to be treated.

There’s the “what might be done” to level the playing field and extend that advantage to all as, for example, it is in Finland?

It’s like the Course in Miracles teaches, “True extension of Self and one’s true free will brings on an awakening worldwide.

There are many organizations that help female owned businesses to interact a confident and refreshingly positive message about the future potential customers for females, and it is gratifying that the message is being heard.

I urge any woman in business, especially young women entrepreneurs to discover more about self-confidence as an entreprneur.

This takes us to wonderful tips for female owned businesses, and encouraging young women entrepreneurs.

Many aspiring female owned businesses, business supervisors and other professionals typically forget that they really have 2 tasks– the very first is to do exactly what they make money for (and do it much better than males).

The other is to proactively handle their profession path and do exactly what is required to guarantee their upward mobility isn’t really based on others– particularly those who notoriously subscribe to the “Old Boys Club” mentality who might or may not be working in her benefit.

The following “secrets”, amassed through my substantial background as both a business entrepreneur and organization experts lending me advice, will help female professionals better handle their success course:

Understand the “circle of successful women entrepreneurs”

A typical piece of suggestions provided to female owned businesses is for them to spend a good deal of time being familiar with, and working side-by-side, with their personnel to make sure each employee has what (s) he needs to be productive.

While that concept is well intentioned, it’s does not offer maximum advantage to all included.

Rather, it is more vital that female managers hang around helping their employer look proficient at every opportunity.

When (s) he understands that you have the ability to assist her/him prosper, you and your group will get more time, attention and resources assisting in optimum productivity.

Many female owned businesses cite male stereotyping and prejudgments of female “appropriate” roles and abilities as a leading barrier to their development.

It’s crucial for women to assess where a male employer stands relative to female specialists.

Previously I discussed women’s insecurity issues can be healed fast and to be a confident woman.

This can be done by analyzing his promotion track record of males vs. females, his balance, or lack, of interactions with female vs. male staffers, and if his interactions with female staffers is strictly expert rather than just inane or flirty little talk exclusively about her household.

How we sound (i.e., one’s unique attributes of the voice such as pitch, volume, and tone) play a crucial role in how females are viewed.

In addition, lots of women tend to mention their opinions, objections or recommendations as a question as opposed to affirmatively and confidently making their point as a declaration.

In a work context, females should command the flooring lest their fantastic ideas fall by the wayside.

Since numerous of us still associate one’s temperament, speaking and appearance capability with their general ability, this stays a powerful challenge for those women who have other or physical stereotype-based characteristics that are tough.

But as humans like the Course in Miracles teaches us, “The ego is aware on how to creep in the back door on us and begin projecting judgment based on fear and self-doubt.”

That said, it might be impossible to change, such as height or weight, blonde hair color, or merely a high pitched voice.

This subjectivity is even worse for young women entrepreneurs as society is generally more able to accept males with what’s considered to be shortfalls more than ladies.

Regardless of these barriers, condition yourself to bring yourself with best posture, speak and gesture in a reliable and confident way, and wear clothes that imparts your female owned businesses success.

To actually stand out from the others and get the crucial promotion, young women entrepreneurs from off site, or in house women execs, ought to guarantee they are in the workplace whenever her employer is in the office.

If (s) he has actually decided that it’s essential to be there after hours, on weekends, or early in the morning, it is entirely to your advantage to be there at the very same time.

Even in this day in age of so-called gender equality, females need to take benefit of all chances to differentiate themselves in the work environment.

It is essential that those who are in the position to benefit a woman’s career in any method know who she is and exactly what she has accomplished.

Effective service people understand the importance of letting others understand about their successes, and go about it in the suitable method.

Ladies need to not wait to get discovered while they toil away at the job at hand, but rather develop the ability of how to tactically talk about her achievements in the work environment.

Far too numerous employees throughout our world are bored and disinterested, which is adversely affecting their performance and creativity.

It’s time for the globe’s corporate leaders to re-engage and invest more time acting as leaders rather than bureaucrats.

The female owned businesses need to exploit this innate capability whenever possible, since such right-minded management ensures that everybody is focused on, and vested in, getting to the goal lines.

How Should You Style The Jumpsuits For Women Like A Fashionista?

If you are one of the girls who want to dress a simple style but to be cool and stylish at the same time? Going for a jumpsuit could be your solid choice in spring! A jumpsuit is quite an easy option for women especially. As long as you pick up the appropriate design and fabric for yourself, your strengths would be highlighted and a fashionable look is created immediately. However, with so many collections expanding so quickly in the market, we should know the most trending ones and how to style them in daily at first. Because we will never show a lame outdated look in front of others.

Denim is a classic and immortal fabric in the fashion circle. The characteristics of denim make it match a jumpsuit for women so well. We can wear denim namely in every season, but the denim jumpsuit seems to be born for spring since it is a great fit to the temperature in these slightly cool days. You can choose a denim jumpsuit with flower embroidery, which is created to match the flourishing atmosphere. Adding a bow-knot will make it look sweeter! As for the bottom shirts, you can choose any color to pair with a denim jumpsuit. But if you want your style to be more eye-catching, a bright color one or a striped one is a good option.

Wide-leg is a very popular cutting for women’s pants in recent years, and it looks good as well in a jumpsuit. A wide-leg jumpsuit creates a high-end feel easy and achieves a perfect body proportion by elongating your legs visually. Moreover, if your wide-leg jumpsuit has sleeves, it can fit all kinds of body shapes. So you don’t have to worry about how to pair with it like the skinny pants. We should keep in mind that the wide-leg design is not only for the tall ladies, petite will look better in it.

If you are a fan of vintage style, going for a plaid jumpsuit is a very lovely idea. The plaid is versatile that can be paired with various footwear from sneakers, Oxford leather boots to high heels! By wearing a plaid jumpsuit, you don’t need to think a lot about discovering a stylish and easy dressing way. If it is a sleeveless one, pair it with a common pure color blouse or sweater is nice. This look is chic for setting for the office, campus or your favorite cafe! I always go for such a collocation in my life since it is so simple and show an artistic taste. Elegant and simple, that is how the vintage style should be!

That’s How You Learn to Err

When my eldest son began to ride a bike, I used the “patent” my father used to teach me how to ride: inserting a broom stick between the rear luggage seat and the bicycle’ body, in order to balance the rider. I was not the only parent who risked his back, huffed and puffed – and hurt his child’s learning experience. When I sensed that the boy reached balance, I pulled out the broom stick and prayed he wouldn’t crash.

When his four years’ younger sister wanted to start riding, I got a tip from a professional riding instructor I met in the park. “Take off the pedals, lower the seat, and let her push the bicycle using her legs”, he said. “When she’ll feel safe, she’ll lift her legs and glide”. “On the plain, there is no danger. That’s the fastest and safest way to learn to ride a bicycle at an early age”, he assured me. So I let go of my doubts and my need of control and followed his instructions.

And so it was. Ten to fifteen minutes after I removed the pedals, I watched my daughter balance herself with a clear-cut pleasure, as she glided with her legs up in the air.

When this happened, I reconnected the pedals and raised the chair according to her height.

Control – It’s not what you think

At first I refused to believe how simple and ingenious his tip was. My child’s riding duration was far beyond my wildest dreams, without falling at all, and I didn’t suffer from back pain and unnecessary guilt feelings. From that day on, every time I see a parent that tries to balance a child on a bike with a broom stick, I stop and try to explain that there is a better, more efficient way to help him learn to ride a bike.

Does it help? Usually not. Most parents shrug their shoulders, continue to hold the bar and run after their children. Only a few dare to try. Some claim that this is how they feel more in control. They are in control indeed, but the greater their control, the more diminishes their son’s control of his learning process.

In learning, experience and play are the name of the game. As Piaget and many other developmental psychologists have already determined, experience and play are the most effective modes of learning and development for children. It is no wonder, therefore, that when we do not allow the child to make mistakes, we also do not allow him to experiment.

The brain needs errors

Brain-learning is a process of trial and error. The experience builds connections between neurons in the brain. When the brain realizes that it has made a mistake, it thinks about another possibility, consequently expands its capabilities. No mistakes, therefore, equals no learning.

Cycling can be dangerous, and it is natural that parents are anxious. But when the child controls his speed, and has the ability to stop (and control) his actions, he also dares more. In the process, his mind learns to balance itself while riding. Young children’s brain is flexible and can learn quickly, if we just let them try, fail and try again, without giving up safety of course.

The child tries – encourage him, the child succeeds – praise him

In order for the child to truly learn from his mistakes, we – parents, teachers and the instructors – need to change our attitude to his mistake and the terminology we use. The first step is to use words of encouragement for each attempt and praise for his achievement.

Since children are very sensitive to authenticity, it is important to distinguish between the meaning of encouragement and the meaning of praise, so that we use them more accurately and effectively. Rick Lavoie (an administrator of residential programs for children with special needs in the US) explains this best:

 Praise is a response to success and is negated by failure. Judicial value is inherent to Praise.

Encouragement, on the other hand, is a positive recognition of the child’s efforts and progress. Encouragement is not judgmental and does not depend on success.

Remember: a child is supposed to earn a praise; encouragement is a gift. Be measured in praises and heap encouragements!

Words that make the difference

Even when the child is wrong, it’s important how we mark it. If we’ll declare, “That’s not true,” we’ll empty his willingness to try again. If, on the other hand, we will analyze with him the way that led him to make the mistake, he will be given the tools to think better the next time.

I talked about cycling, but the moral is relevant to all aspects of life. Think how quickly we tend to intervene and “fix” the way our children act in simple things, even if they are safe, thereby deny them the possibility to learn and develop. Let them make mistakes. They’ll thank us.

How to Make Healthy Habits Stick for Busy Professional Women

“Already, I’m off my diet, skipped exercise class, snacked on chips, and picked up dinner at a fast food restaurant,” she groaned.

How can the best intentions, the stoutest resolutions, and the firmest convictions fall so quickly by the wayside? Are we simply weak and self-sabotaging?

Why is it so hard to form healthy habits especially when we know as busy professional women that a successful health plan depends on adopting healthy habits and good intentions.

Is there anything we can do to make the healthy changes and develop the healthy habits we so desire?


By understanding what a habit is and how it forms.

What is a habit?

A habit is something that you do often or regularly.

What you may not know is how these habits form in the brain.

How are habits formed?

In 2012, Charles Duhigg published The Power of Habit. In it, he explores the neuroscience behind why we do what we do.

What Neuroscientists have discovered is:

· Our habit-making behaviors trace to a part of the brain called the basal ganglia.

· Our decision-making process traces to the prefrontal cortex.

Two separate parts of the brain.

The basal ganglia, near the center of your skull, are where emotions, memories, and pattern recognition develop. From an evolutionary perspective, it is one of the oldest parts of our brain.

The prefrontal cortex, the area right behind your forehead, is where thought originates. From an evolutionary perspective, it is one of the newest parts of our brain.

Neurologically what happens is that most behavior originates in the prefrontal cortex as thought. Then, as a behavior becomes a habit, it moves into the basal ganglia where it is automated.

Now that you know what’s happening in the brain, it’s time to introduce you to the ‘habit loop.’

Introducing the habit loop.

The habit loop is a neurological loop that governs any habit. It consists of three components:

· Cue

· Routine

· Reward

Understanding these components is what helps busy professional women change unhealthy habits into healthy ones.

Let’s examine each part of the habit loop:

1. Cue.

There’s a cue or trigger that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and let a behavior unfold. It is the stimulus or experience that starts the habit loop.

Example from The Power of Habit: There’s a woman who can’t stop biting her nails even though it causes her much pain and embarrassment. When asked by a therapist when or why she starts biting she describes a tingling sensation in her fingertips. This sensation is the cue.

The first step in changing a habit is to become aware of the cue.

2. Routine.

This is the behavior itself that we think of as the habit.

Example from The Power of Habit: When the woman who bites her nails gets bored and feels a tingling in her fingertips her old behavior was to start rubbing her fingertips feeling for bumps or edges. When she found one, she would chew on it and then, on autopilot, proceed to chew every nail on her hand until her nails were completely smooth or completely removed.

The second step in changing a habit is to reprogram the unhealthy habit to do something that is healthier.

When the woman felt the tingling sensation come on (cue), she replaced nail-biting with rubbing her fingers on her arm or table.

This simple change from biting her nails to rubbing her fingertips on another surface was all it took to create a new neural pathway in her brain.

3. Reward

This is something that your brain likes that helps it remember and encode the new habit loop in the future.

Example from The Power of Habit: After a week of not biting her nails, she rewarded herself with a manicure.

The third step in changing a habit is to reward your new healthy habit.

“It seems ridiculously simple, but once you’re aware of how your habit works, once you recognize the cues and rewards, you’re halfway to changing it. It seems like it should be more complex. The truth is the brain can be reprogrammed. You just have to be deliberate about it.” According to behavioral modification researcher Dr. Nathan Azrin.

Still, a nagging question remains, why do people return to their unhealthy habits?

It’s because of the basal ganglia. It stores memories. Therefore, the neural pathways don’t get erased. They remain.

That’s why you hear people say, “Whoops, I forgot and slipped back into my old habits.”

5 Tips for Success

The best way for busy professional women to change an unhealthy habit is to replace it with a new one. That way your brain creates new neural pathways allowing you to use those habits.

Here are five success factors that will help your new habits stick.

1. If you want to make healthy habits stick, you have to love your habits. And you do that by first loving yourself.

2. When you decide to change a habit, make sure you choose your daily thoughts and activities from a place of love, not self-criticism.

It’s so easy to get down on yourself for slipping back into neurological pathways that are unhealthy. Remember, change is a process. Take it one step at a time. Nurture yourself along the way, and healthy habits will soon be automatic.

3. Keep focused on the positive results you want.

Changing a habit requires replacing the old routine with a new one. Sometimes this feels awkward because there are uncomfortable steps to take when choosing new actions that develop into habits that serve you better. Stay focused.

4. You will experience a delightful sensation when you reward yourself each time you make a healthy choice. This is how your neurology learns to encode a new pattern for the future.

This rush of joy will entice you to choose the health habits again and again. And you’ll start to see healthy results.

5. When you love your habits, your new habits will bring your desired results. Your desired results will, therefore, come from your place of love.

Audrey Hepburn said it best: “The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.”

When it comes to making healthy habits stick, it takes more than stout resolutions and firm convictions. To create a new habit that leads to a successful health plan, you’ll need to know how habits form in the brain. You need to know about the habit loop. Read about how it works, what causes us to slip back into unhealthy habits, and discover five tips for success.

When I’m Beside Myself, I’m in Bad Company

In the beginning of the week the Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage said, “On Thursday the girls and I will be going to St. Augustine for the day to visit thrift shops.” It was spring break and so the girls did not have school. It was the perfect opportunity for an outing for them.

“Do you think,” she asked, “you’ll be able to handle the day without me?”

I laughed, but not too hard, and said, “I think so. Just go and have a wonderful time in St. Augustine.”

That was Monday and when Thursday came, I was drinking my morning coffee and my wife came in and said, “Well, it’s time for us to go. Are you sure you’ll be able to take care of yourself today?”

I looked at her and said, “Where are you going?”

“Don’t you remember what I told you Monday?”

Actually, I really did not remember what she told me Monday. She tells me so much that it is very hard to remember everything.

“Don’t you remember I said the girls and I will be spending the day in St. Augustine?”

I had been working so hard all week trying to catch up, I forgot about this Thursday trip.

I walked her to the door and kissed her goodbye. She turned and looked at me and said, “You’re not smiling are you?”

Then she said, “I have your lunch prepared with instructions. Follow those instructions to the letter.”

It is not often I have a free day all to myself. I do not need too many of them but occasionally it is good to have a free day where all you have to deal with is yourself. Of course, that can get a little tiring when I am dealing with myself.

I went to my office, sat down and started to catch up on some work I had gotten behind on. It’s terrible when you get behind on your work and it takes twice as long to try to catch up. I often wonder if you ever really do catch up?

I was working so hard that I as I glanced at my watch I noticed it was noon. I love lunchtime. My wife makes such wonderful meals for lunch.

I arrived at the house, got out of my truck and walked through the front door and as I did I said, “Honey, I’m home. What’s for lunch?”

As I walked through the door, I got a strange sense. Usually there is a wonderful aroma of lunch. This time, there was no aroma whatsoever.

It then dawned on me. The wife is away for the day and I am in charge of lunch.

That can be a good thing or it can be a very bad thing. One good thing was, my wife had prepared my lunch, all I had to do was put it in the little micro oven and it would be finished. It was pizza for the day.

She had written instructions. She said, “Use the third button and set it for 15 minutes.” Usually, she is quite precise in what she says. This time I was confused.

On the micro oven, there were four buttons. Now, when she said use the third button, was it the third button from the top or the third button from the bottom?

At the time I was tempted to text her and get a clarification on this instruction. However, I knew if I did that I would never hear the end of it for the rest of my life. She put the instructions there and I was supposed to interpret those instructions.

That is what it means to be a husband these days. Your wife tells you something and you have to interpret it and most of the time we husbands get it wrong. I know I do.

I did what any sane husband would do under the circumstances. I got a quarter out and did the “heads or tails” movement. Heads it was from the top down, tails it was from the bottom up. It turned out to be heads, which was the right way to go unbeknownst to me.

I did not quite know how to read that little button and so I turned it all the way and then put my pizza in to warm it up.

Only a few moments later I began to smell an aroma. It was not the aroma of pizza being warmed up, but rather the aroma of something on fire.

I ran to the kitchen and to the oven and there my pizza was sizzling and burning. I opened the door, pulled the pizza out and looked at it for a few moments. As much as I can remember, this is not the kind of pizza the wife does. What do I do with this burnt pizza?

When the wife came home later that afternoon, she asked me how the pizza was. I assured her that it was rather delicious.

“Why then,” she said rather sternly, “is there burnt pizza in the garbage?”

My little slip reminded me of what Solomon said. “Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest” (Ecclesiastes 9:10).

How Women Can Develop Emotional Intelligence

How Women Can Develop Emotional Intelligence

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At home or work front, women have to confront situations where being emotionally intelligent pays off. How do you actually achieve emotional intelligence? Read on for insights.

Here are a few ideas:

  1. By practice

You are initially imperfect about being emotionally intelligent. But you can practice it by taking enough breaths and focusing on them. Then you don’t find the necessity to get angry or cry. This is very important at the work front. You might even get a raise or promotion for exhibiting this quality properly.

  1. By keeping yourself cool no matter what

No matter what the situation is or how much chaos it contains, if you train yourself to be cool and think rationally and accordingly take actions, you can actually downsize the problem and discomfort of the situation.

  1. By taking tips from your Man

Men don’t usually cry but they do lose their temper at times. You can learn their secrets by asking them how they remain emotionally strong in the face of an overwhelming situation. Take tips from them and act on them.

  1. By following an idol

You have met a person whom you idolize greatly. You like his strength of character and personality. Try to understand how he keeps these qualities at bay and follow him. You need not follow everything about him but learning to be emotionally intelligent by following your idol is worth a dime.

  1. By reading books on self-help that emphasize emotional intelligence

You can get lots of ideas on emotional intelligence by reading a wide variety of self-help books that emphasize on it. Look for bestsellers on Amazon on the topic and invest in yourself. You can also attend summits, webinars and master classes on them and gather full-fledged ideas and insights and apply them to your daily life for best results.

  1. By surfing the web

As always, the web is a vast resource of the stuff you are looking for. Give a few search options on Google to see what you would find. Try several appropriate keywords for good outputs and you are likely to stumble on your topic of interest. You will probably find useful articles or blog posts. Go through them and enjoy reading them but do not forget to put the tips to practical use.Summing up, these are six good approaches to your journey on learning how to be emotionally intelligent for your highest good and also that of your loved ones.